Random List: 15 Ways to Make Her Happy

"A real man never stops trying to show a girl how much she means to him even after he's got her."

1. Send her a cute good night text while she's sleeping so she wakes up with a smile on her face.
2. Make sure she knows that you're afraid to lose her.
3. Treat her the same around your friends as you would do when you're alone.
4. Be there when she needs you.
5. Introduce her to the people that matter to you. Make sure she knows who they are and vice versa.
6. Randomly send her a text saying you're thinking about her.
7. Make her a priority, not an option.
8. Movie night cuddling, instead of going out with the guys.
9. When you're with her, stay off your phone.
10. Back down in an argument sometimes.
11. Respect her.
12. Slow-dance with her even if there's no music.
13. Support her ambition and love her flaws.
14. Make her feel like she's the only woman in the world.
15. Fight for her when she's ready to give up and hold her tight when she's at her weakest.

Where It Counts

I'll never be on the cover of some glamour magazines.
I'll never wear a crown or be a beauty queen.
There are days I look like hell,
there are days I show my age.
But in my heart where it counts, I'm beautiful all the same.

I might not save the world,
I'll never cure some deadly disease.
Won't fly above the trees.
But I'll do my best to change the world a little each day,
I'll do my best to make a difference.
Touch the heart of someone as much as I can,
make a mark on the world where it counts.

I know many who will try to put me down.
Many who would love to see me fail.
But I know who I am and that's where it counts.


~ Written by K.D. Storm

Let it go

"When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart, give it up." 

~Prophet Muhammad

I don't know why we all hang on to something we know we're better off letting go. It's like we're scared to lose what we really don't even have.

Some of us say we'd rather have something than nothing at all, but the truth is... to have something halfway is harder than not having it at all...

When we finally LET GO of the past, something BETTER comes along.

Easy like Sunday Morning

Enjoy and live your life to the fullest. Cherish every precious memory, correct every mistake, rock your life.. laugh heartily.
It is only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth, that we will begin to live each day to the fullest.

Happy Sunday!

The truth is, I probably don't want to be too happy or content, 'cause then what? I actually like the quest, the search. That's the fun. The more lost you are, the more you have to look forward to. I am having a great time and I don't even know it.

I like being a mess, it's who I am.

Just For Today

Great advice for today, any day, everyday!

• Smile at a stranger.
• Listen to someone's heart.
• Don't hold a grudge.
• Don't kill that spider in your house, he's just lost, so show him the way out.
• Learn something new, then teach it to someone else.
• Tell someone you're thinking of them.
• Don't be afraid to say I'm sorry.
• Hug a loved one.
• Make a promise, and keep it.
• Call someone for no other reason than just to say 'hi'.
• Show kindness to an animal.
• Stand up for what you believe.
• Smell the rain, feel the breeze, listen to the wind, enjoy the sun.
• Use all your senses to their fullest.
• Cherish all your TODAYS!

And remember that when you plant a seed of love, it is you that blossom. <3

Soul Mates

Soul mates?

I think they exist.

Just not always romantically.

I think there are

certain people

you will meet in your life

who you just connect with

more than anyone else

and you know it

isn't a typical thing.

You understand each other perfectly
and this person won't
always be your 'significant other'
I mean it could be your friend
or sibling or parent
or teacher
or the person you're dating
or whoever,
it could be just anyone
you've interacted with.

© 2012 Amelia Boulevard

Happy Mother's Day

Tadinya sama sekali ga 'ngeh' that today is "Mother's Day"-- cuz in Indonesia, we celebrate "Hari Ibu" on December 22nd. Pas buka Fb, eh banyak banget post related to Mother's day. Maklum, I've got many friends from all over the world, they celebrate it on the second Sunday of May. Langsung dah, inget mom-- it's not that I don't miss her everyday, it's just, sometimes I miss her more than the other days.

Here's a poem I found called "Her Hands"-- it captures my thoughts about my mom's hands.

Her hands held me gently from the day I took my first breath

Her hands helped to guide me as I took my first step.

Her hands held me close when the tears would start to fall.

Her hands were quick to show me that she would take care of it all.

Her hands are now twisting with age and years of work.

Her hand now needs my gentle touch to rub away the hurt.

Her hands are more beautiful than anything can be.

Her hands are the reason I am me.

~ Maggie Pittman

My mom's hands told so many stories.. the many meals she cooked, the clothes she mended, the works she did, and I'm sure the many hours hands spent folded in prayers for her daughters.

So, a special Happy Mother's Day to all mothers around the world. "Thank you" seem hardly adequate for everything you have done.

To my own mother, missing you most... 

Sixty (Funny) Facts about Women

1. We like it when you lend your favourite book to us, for several reasons.
2. It's not that we like the flowers themselves, it's that the flowers mean you're thinking about us. And we love that.
3. Those little nonsensical arguments, for us, are fun. They give us a chance to see how you deal with things.
4. We appreciate when you can admit you're wrong, but we also don't want you to say sorry too much.
5. Men don't realize that women notice everything.
6. We are really more forgiving after fights then we let on.
7. It's always a good sign when you can laugh at yourself, it's a graceful motion of not letting pride get to your head.
8. It's true, we always want to be top of your priority.
9. We put in relationship absolutely everything we want you to give back.
10. If you don't want to tell us something, you probably should. We might find from someone else, and that won't be good.
11. We can read you like a book, so if something is wrong or bothering you, don't be afraid to share it. It saves us the trouble of having to spend all day guessing.
12. When we're in a large crowd, hold our hands as if you don't want to lose us.
13. We love the fact that you're stronger than us, and that you can reach everything on the top of the shelf.
14. The only reason we share our problems with you is to give you a chance to make us feel better.
15. It's okay to talk about other women but we don't want to hear anything specifically comparative, unless you're saying that we're better at everything.
16. You know that sometimes we don't say what we mean, but if you go by body language, it's easy.
17. For special occasions, it's the effort that matters most, not where we're end up going.
18.  We love the unexpected kiss. Especially the one when you stop us midsentence and make us forget what the hell we were talking about at the first place.
19. Sometimes we don't need you to solve our problems, we just want you to listen.
20. If the world were a beach, we would want you to throw us into the ocean and then protect us from the waves.
21. We like our heroes flawed. That way, they can rescue us, but it gives us room to rescue them, too.
22. When we say nothing's wrong, we mean that you should know what is wrong with us without us having to tell you.
23. No, it's not alright that you didn't plan anything for our birthday even though we told you not to.
24. We sometimes cry, we feel better after a big sob.
25. When we are truly angry, we go silent- it's your opportunity to apologize-- or run. Neither will save you.
26. We like it when you have a lot of male friends, it means you can maintain a good relationship, like the one you have with us.
27. You have the power to make us feel like we're the only girl in the room- use it wisely. (and often!)
28. "I love you" is better when it's rare, spontaneous, and really meaningful.
29. Nothing is quite comforting as a big hug. Safe, warm, firm, but yielding.
30. We can tell that the gift is purchased in the last minute, but we still like it.
31. When we wear high heels, we still expect that you're taller than us.
32. A single rose on a random Wednesday  means more than a dozen on Valentine's day.
33. We rarely ask a question we don't already know the answer to. So, we know you don't think she's hotter than us, or we wouldn't ask.
34. If you ask how good you looked doing something, we might be honest. So ask yourself first whether you really want to know.
35. It's okay when you cry for a good reason. Watching a movie is usually not a good reason.
36. Fifty percent of the time we say we're just kidding, we're actually telling the truth.
37. Women have been passive-progressive since Eve plucked the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden. Don't question why we do this, just learn to decode it.
38. Making us laugh is the sexiest thing you can do.
39. Being thought is awesome. When you're at work, send me a link of something I would like, or text a picture of something that make you think of me, or a note that you heard a song on the radio that reminded you of me.
40. Note: we're better at math than you think
41. Don't feel threaten when a man chat us up. If you have a good woman on your hand, there's nothing to worry about. Believe us.
42. Make us coffee and breakfast in the morning and we might love you forever.
43. As men, you tend to forget things. As women, it takes us as many twice good thoughts to get rid of bad thoughts.
44. We don't want you to have any female friends. We just don't trust other women.
45. If we tell you to never call us again, there's a chance we're waiting near the telephone for you to call us.
46. If it's a choice between seeing us or seeing your friends, we always want you to pick us.
47. We notice how long it takes for you to reply a message. We time it down to the last nanosecond.
48. We need you to be our emotional support.
49. The right girl will never be content with the second best.
50. Make mental notes of what we like.
51. We never forget. It's just in our DNA not to let things slide.
52. You might be embarrassed by the sappy comments we leave on your Facebook page, that's how we mark our territory.
53. We don't expect you to agree with us on everything, we actually want you to have an opinion.
54. Phone calls are hard to come by these days. Surprise us with a call sometimes, instead of a text. We love hearing your voice.
55. We're glad when you're NOT on Facebook.
56. If you think it's a test, it's probably a test.
57. We may not always say it but we actually DO notice and appreciate all the little things for us-- and we'd notice if you stopped.
58. We don't want to be the girl standing somewhere and everyone can tell she's wondering if she'll be stood up. It's okay if you're late sometimes. Just call.
59. Some stereotypes are true: women need intimacy, we need to discuss things, we want you to be more open about your feelings- so sue us.
60. Educated, smart women want to hear how beautiful they are, and beautiful women want to hear how smart they are. Never compliment a smart woman for being smart, she already knows.

Dear heart, why him?

Dear brain, sorry for overloading you with my thoughts of him.

Dear tummy, sorry for all the butterflies.

Dear pillow, sorry for all the tears.

Dear heart, sorry for all the damage.

Soul mate? ^^

"As all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it."

~ Steve Jobs

Only once in your life, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can't wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you're hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. 

Colours seems brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all. 

A conversation or two during the day helps to get through a long day's work and always bring a smile to your face. In their presence, there is no need for continuous talks but you find you're quite content in just having them nearby. 

Things that never interested you before become fascinating because they are important to this person who is special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like pale blue sky, gentle wind, or even a storm cloud in the horizon.

You open your heart to feel the true pleasure that's so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friends and possible a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life. Life seems completely different, exciting, and worthwhile. 

Don't Forget Your Sisters

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligation of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clean, sober glance upon her daughter.

 "Don't forget your sisters,' she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. 'They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.'

'Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women. your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. 'You'll need other women. Women always do.'

What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman thought. Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are
between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you....Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.

~ Unknown

LOVE

I'm writing about LOVE not because I got "Valentine-day" syndrome or something. It's true that this world does not always have to revolve around LOVE and the issues of LOVE. It's too shallow.. But, there's no denying that it does exist! LOVE does exist! And today, I simply wanna share my thought, that's all. I don't wanna go deep about this LOVE thingy, just a little thought on what love is all about. ^^

Love is NOT about:

• dates
• monthsaries
• anniversaries
• expensive materials
• elegant boyfriend/girlfriend

It's not either about:

• holding hands
• tight hugging
• torrid kissing
• body touching
• sexual intercourse

LOVE is about how you VALUE and RESPECT someone without EXPECTING things from them in return. It's about being unselfishly DEVOTED and COMMITTED with that special person til the last beat of your HEART.

Gotta confess that it's a kinda awkward to talk about LOVE on V-day when you're single.. but- as I believe in the sun when it's not shining, or I believe in God when He is silent,-- I DO believe in LOVE even I haven't found 'him'. <3

True Love

I guess some of you have known this story. But I do love this that I can't help myself not to share it here.
Here it is...

It was a busy morning about 8:30, when an elderly gentleman in his 80's arrived at the hospital to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. The nurse took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided- since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.
While taking care of his wound, I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.  I inquired to ask about her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she's a victim of Alzheimer. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he's a bit late. He replied that she was no longer knew who he was, that she has not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"
He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I learn that true love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. 

I've Learned #1

I've learned that my best friend and I can do anything- or nothing, and still have a good time.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the one who helps you get up.

I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want him to, doesn't mean he doesn't love you with all he has.

I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others, but you also have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned that just because two people argue doesn't mean that they don't love each other, and just because they don't argue it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I've learned that you shouldn't be so eager to find a secret, it may change your life forever. Sometimes it is better to be clueless about what is happening around you, than to know every bit of information that would silently kill you.

I've learned that sometime people you love the most in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.

I've learned that it's not what you have in life, but who that counts.

I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but just don't know how to show it.

I've learned that maturity has more to do with the experiences you've had and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many years you have lived.

I've learned that the truth may hurt you for a little while, but a lie will hurt you forever.

I've learned that joy is portable, you can always bring it with you.

I've learned that just because something isn't happening right now, doesn't mean that it will never happen.

I've learned that everything has beauty but not everyone can see it.

I've learned that everything in life is temporary. So if things are going good, enjoy it because it won't last forever. And if things are going bad, don't worry, it won't last forever either.

I've learned that at some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart, but not in your life. *sigh*

I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I've learned that you live only once, but if you do it right, once is enough.

I've learned that not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.

The Top 20 Things Oprah Knows For Sure

1. What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what.
2. You define your own life, don't let other people write your script.
3. Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.
4. When people show you who they are, believe them in the first time.
5. Worrying is wasted time. Use the energy for doing something about whatever worries you.
6. What you believe has more power than what you wish or dream or hope for. You become what you believe.
7. If the only prayer you ever say is thank you, that will be enough.
8. The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.
9. Failure is a signpost to turn you in another direction.
10. If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world will not fall apart.
11. Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn't lie.
12. Love yourself then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter.
13. Let passion drive your profession.
14. Find a way to get paid for doing what you love. Then every paycheck will be a bonus.
15. Love doesn't hurt. It feels really good.
16. Every day brings a chance to start over.
17. Being a mother is the hardest job on earth. Women everywhere must declare it so.
18. Doubt means don't. Don't move. Don't answer. Don't rush forward.
19. When you don't know what to do, get still. The answer will come.
20. "Troubles don't last always"  

borrowed from "Exceptional Living"

Happy New Year

"Life is a beautiful ride."

The purpose of a new year is not because you need a new year. It is because you need a new YOU, a renewed soul. Respect the past, don't dwell in it, learn from it. Get rid of anything that isn't useful and all the things that bring you down. Stay away from negativity and open your eyes, heart, and mind to all of God's blessings.

When you want to do something, do it with conviction. When you choose not to do something, do it without fear. Live with no regrets and love with no excuses because eventually all will fall into pieces. Until then laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason. People change so you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they're right, and good things fall apart so that better things can fall together.

All the struggles make you stronger, the changes make you wiser, and happiness has its own way of taking its sweet time. Life isn't always beautiful but it's a beautiful ride.

Wishing everyone a very happy new year. May all your dreams come true, even the ones that they laughed at.