Soul Mates

Soul mates?

I think they exist.

Just not always romantically.

I think there are

certain people

you will meet in your life

who you just connect with

more than anyone else

and you know it

isn't a typical thing.

You understand each other perfectly
and this person won't
always be your 'significant other'
I mean it could be your friend
or sibling or parent
or teacher
or the person you're dating
or whoever,
it could be just anyone
you've interacted with.

© 2012 Amelia Boulevard

Happy Mother's Day

Tadinya sama sekali ga 'ngeh' that today is "Mother's Day"-- cuz in Indonesia, we celebrate "Hari Ibu" on December 22nd. Pas buka Fb, eh banyak banget post related to Mother's day. Maklum, I've got many friends from all over the world, they celebrate it on the second Sunday of May. Langsung dah, inget mom-- it's not that I don't miss her everyday, it's just, sometimes I miss her more than the other days.

Here's a poem I found called "Her Hands"-- it captures my thoughts about my mom's hands.

Her hands held me gently from the day I took my first breath

Her hands helped to guide me as I took my first step.

Her hands held me close when the tears would start to fall.

Her hands were quick to show me that she would take care of it all.

Her hands are now twisting with age and years of work.

Her hand now needs my gentle touch to rub away the hurt.

Her hands are more beautiful than anything can be.

Her hands are the reason I am me.

~ Maggie Pittman

My mom's hands told so many stories.. the many meals she cooked, the clothes she mended, the works she did, and I'm sure the many hours hands spent folded in prayers for her daughters.

So, a special Happy Mother's Day to all mothers around the world. "Thank you" seem hardly adequate for everything you have done.

To my own mother, missing you most... 

Sixty (Funny) Facts about Women

1. We like it when you lend your favourite book to us, for several reasons.
2. It's not that we like the flowers themselves, it's that the flowers mean you're thinking about us. And we love that.
3. Those little nonsensical arguments, for us, are fun. They give us a chance to see how you deal with things.
4. We appreciate when you can admit you're wrong, but we also don't want you to say sorry too much.
5. Men don't realize that women notice everything.
6. We are really more forgiving after fights then we let on.
7. It's always a good sign when you can laugh at yourself, it's a graceful motion of not letting pride get to your head.
8. It's true, we always want to be top of your priority.
9. We put in relationship absolutely everything we want you to give back.
10. If you don't want to tell us something, you probably should. We might find from someone else, and that won't be good.
11. We can read you like a book, so if something is wrong or bothering you, don't be afraid to share it. It saves us the trouble of having to spend all day guessing.
12. When we're in a large crowd, hold our hands as if you don't want to lose us.
13. We love the fact that you're stronger than us, and that you can reach everything on the top of the shelf.
14. The only reason we share our problems with you is to give you a chance to make us feel better.
15. It's okay to talk about other women but we don't want to hear anything specifically comparative, unless you're saying that we're better at everything.
16. You know that sometimes we don't say what we mean, but if you go by body language, it's easy.
17. For special occasions, it's the effort that matters most, not where we're end up going.
18.  We love the unexpected kiss. Especially the one when you stop us midsentence and make us forget what the hell we were talking about at the first place.
19. Sometimes we don't need you to solve our problems, we just want you to listen.
20. If the world were a beach, we would want you to throw us into the ocean and then protect us from the waves.
21. We like our heroes flawed. That way, they can rescue us, but it gives us room to rescue them, too.
22. When we say nothing's wrong, we mean that you should know what is wrong with us without us having to tell you.
23. No, it's not alright that you didn't plan anything for our birthday even though we told you not to.
24. We sometimes cry, we feel better after a big sob.
25. When we are truly angry, we go silent- it's your opportunity to apologize-- or run. Neither will save you.
26. We like it when you have a lot of male friends, it means you can maintain a good relationship, like the one you have with us.
27. You have the power to make us feel like we're the only girl in the room- use it wisely. (and often!)
28. "I love you" is better when it's rare, spontaneous, and really meaningful.
29. Nothing is quite comforting as a big hug. Safe, warm, firm, but yielding.
30. We can tell that the gift is purchased in the last minute, but we still like it.
31. When we wear high heels, we still expect that you're taller than us.
32. A single rose on a random Wednesday  means more than a dozen on Valentine's day.
33. We rarely ask a question we don't already know the answer to. So, we know you don't think she's hotter than us, or we wouldn't ask.
34. If you ask how good you looked doing something, we might be honest. So ask yourself first whether you really want to know.
35. It's okay when you cry for a good reason. Watching a movie is usually not a good reason.
36. Fifty percent of the time we say we're just kidding, we're actually telling the truth.
37. Women have been passive-progressive since Eve plucked the forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden. Don't question why we do this, just learn to decode it.
38. Making us laugh is the sexiest thing you can do.
39. Being thought is awesome. When you're at work, send me a link of something I would like, or text a picture of something that make you think of me, or a note that you heard a song on the radio that reminded you of me.
40. Note: we're better at math than you think
41. Don't feel threaten when a man chat us up. If you have a good woman on your hand, there's nothing to worry about. Believe us.
42. Make us coffee and breakfast in the morning and we might love you forever.
43. As men, you tend to forget things. As women, it takes us as many twice good thoughts to get rid of bad thoughts.
44. We don't want you to have any female friends. We just don't trust other women.
45. If we tell you to never call us again, there's a chance we're waiting near the telephone for you to call us.
46. If it's a choice between seeing us or seeing your friends, we always want you to pick us.
47. We notice how long it takes for you to reply a message. We time it down to the last nanosecond.
48. We need you to be our emotional support.
49. The right girl will never be content with the second best.
50. Make mental notes of what we like.
51. We never forget. It's just in our DNA not to let things slide.
52. You might be embarrassed by the sappy comments we leave on your Facebook page, that's how we mark our territory.
53. We don't expect you to agree with us on everything, we actually want you to have an opinion.
54. Phone calls are hard to come by these days. Surprise us with a call sometimes, instead of a text. We love hearing your voice.
55. We're glad when you're NOT on Facebook.
56. If you think it's a test, it's probably a test.
57. We may not always say it but we actually DO notice and appreciate all the little things for us-- and we'd notice if you stopped.
58. We don't want to be the girl standing somewhere and everyone can tell she's wondering if she'll be stood up. It's okay if you're late sometimes. Just call.
59. Some stereotypes are true: women need intimacy, we need to discuss things, we want you to be more open about your feelings- so sue us.
60. Educated, smart women want to hear how beautiful they are, and beautiful women want to hear how smart they are. Never compliment a smart woman for being smart, she already knows.

Dear heart, why him?

Dear brain, sorry for overloading you with my thoughts of him.

Dear tummy, sorry for all the butterflies.

Dear pillow, sorry for all the tears.

Dear heart, sorry for all the damage.

Soul mate? ^^

"As all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it."

~ Steve Jobs

Only once in your life, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can't wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you're hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. 

Colours seems brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all. 

A conversation or two during the day helps to get through a long day's work and always bring a smile to your face. In their presence, there is no need for continuous talks but you find you're quite content in just having them nearby. 

Things that never interested you before become fascinating because they are important to this person who is special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like pale blue sky, gentle wind, or even a storm cloud in the horizon.

You open your heart to feel the true pleasure that's so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friends and possible a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life. Life seems completely different, exciting, and worthwhile. 

Don't Forget Your Sisters

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligation of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clean, sober glance upon her daughter.

 "Don't forget your sisters,' she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. 'They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.'

'Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women. your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. 'You'll need other women. Women always do.'

What a funny piece of advice!' the young woman thought. Haven't I just gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.

After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I've learned:

Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don't do what they're supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.

BUT.........

Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are
between you. A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley's rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley's end.

Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you....Or come in and carry you out.

Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!

The world wouldn't be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other.

~ Unknown

LOVE

I'm writing about LOVE not because I got "Valentine-day" syndrome or something. It's true that this world does not always have to revolve around LOVE and the issues of LOVE. It's too shallow.. But, there's no denying that it does exist! LOVE does exist! And today, I simply wanna share my thought, that's all. I don't wanna go deep about this LOVE thingy, just a little thought on what love is all about. ^^

Love is NOT about:

• dates
• monthsaries
• anniversaries
• expensive materials
• elegant boyfriend/girlfriend

It's not either about:

• holding hands
• tight hugging
• torrid kissing
• body touching
• sexual intercourse

LOVE is about how you VALUE and RESPECT someone without EXPECTING things from them in return. It's about being unselfishly DEVOTED and COMMITTED with that special person til the last beat of your HEART.

Gotta confess that it's a kinda awkward to talk about LOVE on V-day when you're single.. but- as I believe in the sun when it's not shining, or I believe in God when He is silent,-- I DO believe in LOVE even I haven't found 'him'. <3